- Have you ever looked at yourself in the mirror and wondered who was looking back at you?
- Do you wonder what happened to that bright young thing you were with all the hopes and dreams to strive for?
- Do you feel like life has become too stressful and demanding, with no you time?
- Lost yourself in the humdrum of life and beginning to realise that you feel dead inside and just going through the motions of living?
I was 36 and it was my first real experience of a wake up call (midlife crisis).
I was splitting up with my husband and it was a difficult time for us both. We had debts, two young children and demanding jobs. And it was only later, that we acknowledged we both had issues we were not even aware of! We blamed each other for all manner of different things.
I have to say that whole period, took me by surprise and it was only with hindsight that I realised it was my WAKE-UP call – at the time it just felt like hell!
I was physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually overdrawn. I had nothing left to give. I just woke up one morning and burst into tears whilst making the children’s lunchboxes saying, so quietly that my husband had to ask me to repeat it, “I can’t do this anymore”.
What happened then and for a number of years afterwards, is a blur. I was on autopilot, never really giving myself real time and space to heal, reflect and learn.
After all, I had 2 young children to care for, a demanding full time job to keep, bills to pay, including a newly acquired mortgage, plus a mountain of debt. I was behaving like superwoman (although I read somewhere that she didn’t have any children, isn’t that funny?!). I never had much time for me; I was too busy keeping life together.
Since then I have worked with many people who, like me, have forgotten who they really are; who play too many roles; who do not realise how disconnected they are from themselves and have lost their way; for those people who are discovering that what is wrong is not ‘out there’, but more ‘in here’ (mind, body, heart and soul).
And many people believe it is their external experiences that they are dissatisfied with, when really it is what is going on inside, the interpretation of the events. I encourage my clients to come with me on a journey of exploration to identify the real root of their problems which started out with early conditioning, when as children they could only process in the moment, and emotionally, because their conscious logical mind had not yet developed. Here is where they learnt about their world, and formed a set of rules, (beliefs) learnt what was important to them (Values) . Discovering old emotions and the important role that those emotions play in their life even today and that by looking at them, understanding they and what can be learnt from them, I can help the client let them go, neutralize them if you like so that they can take on more empowering ways of being.
Are you ready to explore those hidden depths where you can begin to find the hidden keys that unlock a better you and enable you to create a better future?
Then please get in touch now by emailing me at firstname.lastname@example.org